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Wayne Svoboda's avatar

Full marks for this piece and its distinction drawing between a day to honor war dead and others gone(Decoration Day) versus a hat tip to veterans more broadly in November.

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Maura Casey's avatar

Thank you, Wayne!

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Ruth W Crocker's avatar

Thank you, Maura. As a widow of a soldier killed in Vietnam, I totally agree with your perspective in this piece.

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Maura Casey's avatar

The Memorial Day concert was sickening, a one-size-fits all palooza for every private who ever served as a file clerk. It’s disrespectful to people like your husband, may he rest in peace. Thank you, Ruth.

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Roberta Baskin's avatar

What a heartfelt tribute to Tommy and remembering the fallen.

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Bethe Dufresne's avatar

For our little Memorial Day gathering in Old Mystic, the speaker showed a large photo of one fallen local soldier (Vietnam) and told that young soldier's (sweet) life and (horrific) death story. It was poignant, and pure. Sadly, few institutions and observances - even Memorial Day - seem able to retain their purity in America today.

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Maura Casey's avatar

Isn’t that the truth. I used to enjoy watching the Memorial Day concert but this year’s was a travesty.

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Suzette Ciancio's avatar

I agree with you completely, Maura! I’m all for inclusion but we have Veteran’s Day for those who served and weren’t killed on duty. Sigh

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Dr. Carole Rollins's avatar

Yes. I agree. We already have Veterans Day in November, so Memorial Day should be for the fallen. Thanks for reminding all of us and sharing your personal stories. It fills my heart.

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Maura Casey's avatar

Thank you, Carole!

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Linda's avatar

We as a nation are getting further away from the home front anguish of WWI and WWII that was experienced by our parents and grandparents, especially the women. I totally agree with you about keeping the day a somber affair. It is one out of 365 each year, have your picnics on Saturday or Sunday. Let us remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice for our country on Memorial day, we owe that much to their memories.

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Kathi Zimpleman's avatar

Thank you for telling us about Tommy. You honor his life and his service by telling his story. I agree that Memorial Day has become too much about the beach and not enough about the people who gave their lives so we can live our lives. Their sacrifice deserves to be remembered and honored on Memorial Day.

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Irene Weiss's avatar

Thank you for your family’s story.

What the concert left me with was the realization that so many of those deaths needn’t have occurred because so many of those wars shouldn’t have been fought.

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Maura Casey's avatar

Exactly. The Civil War and WWII were unavoidable. The others were all optional and ultimately tragic.

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Cindy Courtright's avatar

Thank you for making the attempt to remind others of the *WHY*. I have tried to correct the misstep over the years to no avail. The media have helped to conflate the erroneous verbiage, leading the unaware/unwilling to blur the line between the two days.

My ex, my father, my FIL, two uncles -in- law, and one grandfather- in- law have all served. One uncle- in- law was KIA during WWII, leading his brother to join the military, over his mother's objections. We knew intimately the difference. Maybe it takes losing someone to appreciate the distinction?

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Maura Casey's avatar

Maybe it does, Cindy. I was very touched by how my mother-in-law kept that picture of Tommy on her bedside table for decades. It certainly brings the lesson home. They deserve to be remembered.

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Cindy Courtright's avatar

Thank you for remembering him as well

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Maura Casey's avatar

My hubby was amazed at what I was able to find

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